I don’t know about you, but from time to time I feel overwhelmed by life and as of lately this is how I feel. So much to do and not enough time in the day to do. I have decided to use this little vehicle of a blog to do a little self help. I know when I get overwhelmed the best thing for me is to write it out. Often times in my head it seems so much more then what in reality it is and when I see on paper all of my to-dos and expectations life seems much more manageable and not so stressful.
So here goes, a list of to-dos that seem to be overwhelming me these last few weeks:
- Participating in Financial Peace University at my church. For those who don’t know it is a group workshop created by Dave Ramsey and lead by a group leader. It’s great, but it’s forcing me to really look at my current finances, my spending habits, my future financial goals and it requires time, mental effort, self control/boundaries and it requires learning about insurance (really how it works, not a strength of mine) and investing for retirement. It’s big stuff and it’s not easy to take an honest look at where I am at and then make the necessary changes to get where I want to be.
- My 3 year old son. I recently purchased a book titles Your Three Year Old, Friend or Enemy and truthfully that is how I feel. He is a great little guy but he is testing me as his parent. I do my best to set boundaries and instill good behavior. My question is how do you influence a three year old to do what needs to be done when they insist on doing the opposite, while at the same time teach them how to set their own boundaries and say no to protect themselves from hurtful behavior? I have decided parenting is the hardest job on the planet! Bless you who have more than one!
- Work. Balancing work with being a mom, wife, homemaker, friend and alone time. Wow, balance takes constant consideration and a firm understanding of what my priorities really are.
- Writing. Where is the time to write?
- Selling yoga bags, I did not anticipate just how challenging this new adventure and creative outlet would be. There is so much competition out there and a great deal of rejection to go with it.
I feel better all ready. What seemed huge, beyond me, in my head is only five bullet points. Not so much after all, a lot of work yes, but I have a lifetime and that thought coupled with a HA breath, it’s really not so terrible.
So now what I do after listing it all out, I focus on my successes. I may not be where I want yet, but that is okay because I really have made progress! That’s the good news, I am moving in a positive direction. So here are my successes relating to the above points.
- We are working diligently to get out of the minimal debt we are in and committed to staying debt free! We are in the process of changing our insurance policies and saving money. I am more aware of our finances and spending than I have ever been in our entire marriage. We have a firm plan.
- My son is down for a nap right now, which allows me time to meditate, write and relax! I am committed to keeping his routine and have giving him one on one time today.
- Relating to work, I remind myself that I love what I do and it’s not easy balancing my life, but I have done a great job so far. I gave myself time to check in with myself and regroup. I am bringing my stress levels down and relieving that feeling of being overwhelmed.
- The time to write is now!
- I sent out emails to potential buyers and made a sell call I have been thinking about for a long time recently. I made some changes to my site and think often of what to try next.
So now that I can see I am not just sitting around idly doing nothing another wave of ease washes through me. Progress has been made! I feel more and more at ease with each breath and each written word.
Now that I feel more at ease I can create a game plan that keeps me moving in the direction I want to go.
- As far as finances go, I will complete the workshop, learn more and continue to outline our goals for the future and work towards them.
- As for being a Mom, I will read the above mentioned book and hopefully learn something new. If not I will call a great therapist I know who specialized in this area and make an appointment. Never be ashamed to ask for help!
- With work in mind I will create a more balanced schedule and remind myself these past few months have been abnormally busy with workshops, travel and just a lot more going on. It is not the usual and it will slow down soon. I will give myself adequate me time to help balance it out and make sure there is plenty of family time!
- I will keep my goal of writing twice a week and not be hard on myself if it just gets done once a week or not at all.
- Finally, I will focus 30 minutes a week on selling bags. I will aspire to an hour a week and see how that goes.
I feel better, much better in fact. That little bit of time and effort put the above issues in perspective and neutralized my feelings of being overwhelmed. Now I can relax, trust that I have plenty of time and be proud of myself for my accomplishments thus far. It really is a simple technique. Write out what is overwhelming you, write out your successes in those areas thus far and then a game plan for how to move forward. I sincerely hope this is helpful because staying in an overwhelmed or stressed state can be paralyzing as well as harmful to your physical, mental and emotional well being. If the above technique does not help don’t hesitate to ask for help from a friend, loved one, family member or professional. We all need help and it’s a strong person who can recognize it and seek it out!